For anyone who thinks sleeping with the boss will be fun and will not affect your employment or work environment, think again.
First, no matter what the boss says, you’re not in this relationship because you have any value – you are just a bit of excitement on a slow day or an adventure because the affair both at home and at work is forbidden. When the bosses are married, and 9 out of 10 times they are, even if this person claims you are the one true love, what if you get caught? If the boss gets a divorce because of you, would you want to be in a relationship with a person who is obviously a habitual cheater?
And the truth of the matter is you probably aren’t the first and you won’t be the last So you have a shelf life.
How can such a relationship be kept under wraps?
The fun and excitement will be short-lived. Where do people go when they don’t want to be seen together? What happens when someone does see the two of you? Do you start leaving your meeting places one by one? Or do you just go somewhere and stay there for whatever time you have, probably an evening, maybe a day and sometimes a weekend.
Look beyond the clandestine rendezvous and realize it won’t be a secret for long. Your coworkers won’t trust you because you’ve got an illegal “in.” People will start doubting your ability since your underhanded ways are getting you extra perks.
And when it does fall apart, don’t expect it to wrap itself up with all loose ends tucked in neatly and both parties acting like adults.
Suddenly you are no longer special and, in fact, you could be on your way out. The boss has the power to get rid of unwanted employees and even if you stay, what do you do and say when you see that person? The whole thing can blow up when someone higher up finds out who is doing the dirty and then you are alone to face a cold cruel world that you created.
The bottom line – just don’t do it; it can’t work and you, the employee, will suffer the most.
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Grace Aspinall was born and raised in Williamstown, Massachusetts where she was a freelance journalist, photo-journalist and photographer for many years. She currently lives in Clifton, Virginia, and pursues her passions for her horse, her husband, her photography and her grandchildren. Grace has a Bachelor’s Degree in English from Skidmore College and Master’s of Arts in Corporate Communications from Norwich University. During her years in Metro Washington DC she exhibits her talent for technical writing on numerous government contracts.
