March 30 is National I Am in Control Day! I think it is a good day just to remind ourselves that there are a lot of things in life that are out of our control. There is a new saying that I am trying to live by: “Just let it.” We have to let things be and focus on what we can control. This can take a lot of stress away from us and remove any blame that we might have placed on ourselves.

Surprise! There is a history to National I Am in Control Day. On this day, in the year 1981, there was an assassination attempt on then-president, Ronald Reagan. In a short press briefing, the then-Secretary of State Alexander Haig tried to calm the media and press by assuring them that the government was functioning well. It was then that he uttered the famous words “I am in control here,” stating that he was responsible for the executive branch until the president and vice president returned.

While that is the history of this day, today it can be thought of as more a call to action. This might be a good day to take a step back, look at your life, and see what aspects you can take control over. For example, although we can’t control other people, we can always control what we say and the action that we take in response to a situation. Just let them. Another easier thing that we can take control over is what we eat, what we watch, what we listen to, and what we wear! Treat yourself to a food that you love! Watch a show that will make you laugh. Listen to a song that makes you dance and sing! Wear something that makes you feel just as great as you look!

I know that life can be stressful, and things that we’ve worked hard for might not always work out. People may act in a way toward you leaving you confused as to why they did. But that’s okay! Just let them. Just let it be. We can only control what we can control—things that have to do with ourselves. Put yourself first and just let things be. Only focus on what you can change. Otherwise, you’re setting yourself up for burdensome situations and stress. Focus on the things that bring you happiness.

You are in control! This is your day! You can make today awesome. Go for it!

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