The Caregiver, The Silent Victim

When author Ken Wachsberger’s wife Emily was diagnosed with breast cancer, he discovered there were not many resources for caregivers so he wrote a book. Your Partner Has Breast Cancer: 21 Ways to Keep Sane as a Support Person on Your Journey from Victim to Survivor provides heartfelt advice from Ken’s experience as a support person to his wife of 40 years. Her Nexx Chapter has partnered with Ken to share excerpts from his book. The excerpt below is from the book’s Dedication:

“The perceived breast cancer victim is the person who goes into surgery, and with good reason. But the support person, the caregiver, is the silent victim, the one who takes over the perceived victim’s chores, answers questions for well-wishers, assumes double-income responsibility and becomes both parents if they are in a formal couple relationship, and is always the pillar of strength, even when he or she doesn’t feel like a pillar of strength.

This book is dedicated to the silent victims … When I needed help for myself, I found a lot of material on how I could help my spouse but nothing on how I could help myself while I was helping her.