The Inner Voice. We all have one, much of which was developed in childhood. It influences what we think of ourselves and how we do life. It is referred to as “self-talk” or our “internal monologue.”
Some of us were blessed with caregivers and people who were important to us who spoke good truths into our lives. They nurtured us and supported our self-identity to the point that our inner dialogue is mostly positive. To those women, I say, “Rock on, Sister! Keep it positive!” Remember the value and the power of your words and pour some of that positivity into another person’s life.
At the other end of the spectrum are those who experienced abuse or toxic relationships in our childhood, perhaps even in adulthood, which spoke negative thoughts into our self-talk.
Negative self-talk has been linked to conditions such as depression, anxiety and even physical ailments. The good news is YOU CAN CHANGE THAT INTERNAL MONOLOGUE! When you wake up in the morning, look in the mirror and say, “Good morning, Gorgeous!” When the negative self-talk tries to squeeze in, remind yourself of who you really are, what you have accomplished, how you have overcome adversity, the successes you have experienced, the friends and family who speak good things into your life. These things are worthy of holding on to!
We must be intentional at finding positivity. Surround yourself with those who genuinely care about you. Learn to recognize negativity and how to set boundaries so that it can’t seep into your self-talk. Be confident in who you are and who you are striving to become. Use only positive self-talk. Don’t say anything to yourself that you would not say to someone else because what you say matters!
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