“I would prefer not to talk about the sadness and aggression I experienced. Instead, I would like to tell you about the example of overcoming my life. I held firmly for 14 years with my former partner with countless reasons for not leaving home. I didn’t want to leave my home, I had nowhere to go, and I depended financially on him. Whenever divorce was on the agenda, threats to our property were made by him.
One day I got home and he was gone; he left and took everything inside. I arrived and saw only a void. The feeling was strange. I wanted to cry for joy because the nightmare and the aggression would stop, but I also wanted to cry because everything I had built was no longer there. I did not have a stove to cook for my children and I did not have a bed to lie down and rest. But I had peace!
Soon I realized that the nightmare would return in a different way when I received a subpoena. He had asked a judge to evict me from the house; he wanted the house, too! The 14 years we lived together, all the time I took care of him, the children and our home, was no longer worth it. I had to go to the street! With nowhere to go, I sought religious and family support, social assistance and psychological support. It took a lot of talking and a lot of therapy to bring me through.
Getting back up was no easy task. I thought I could never allow myself to love again. When I learned to love and value myself, I found someone who added good things to my life. I had to touch bottom to truly find myself.”
You may be a victim of aggression or involved in an abusive relationship and not realize it. It’s important to be aware of signs that something may not be normal:
- Are there verbal attacks?
- Are simple situations a reason for big discussions?
- Is intimidation used to control you?
- Are you prevented from seeing your family?
- Are you blocked from studying or working?
- Are your finances controlled?
The sooner you can get help and get out of this cycle, the less trauma and consequences of it you will have in your life. The National Domestic Violence Hotline can be reached at 1-800-799-7233 for local resources and assistance.
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Uma estória com essa da Márcia fico pensado que estamos ,em pleno século 21 e ainda aconte se isso ..homens .anormais ,que tenha esse comportamento ..
Parabéns por divulgar essa história. Que contribui para que todos reflitam o quanto Têmis que avançar em defesa -das violências cometidas no Brasil.
No mundo inteiro é grandes violência praticada contra a mulher. No entanto, em países subdesenvolvidos como o Brasil os números acabam sendo ainda mais assustadores.
Worldwide is major violence against women. However, in underdeveloped countries like Brazil the numbers end up being even scarier.
Realmente!!!
Não dá para considerarmos normal uma pessoa que age assim. Lamentável e triste.
Really!!!
We cannot consider a person who acts like this to be normal. Pitiful and sad.
Nos dias atuais os relacionamentos mostram a interação dos casais.As mulheres em específica tem de observar esses sinais,discussões verbais,ofensa,chingamentos isto tende a levar a um caminho não muito bom.Por isso eu como homem repudio esses atitudes e me solidarizo com aa mulheres a tomarem atitudes firmes para que esse tipo de comportamento dos homens não aconteçam mais.Parabéns a Márcia pela coragem e determinação na construção de uma vida plena e Parabéns a Você Ana por mais uma história real de superação de um grande problema familiar que tem destruido famílias.Obrigado por compartilhar conosco.
Infelizmente essa história ainda é comum em vários lares.
O ser humano mesmo quando é formado e direcionado em uma boa família tendo assim o caminho correto e o incorreto se a tendência do indivíduo for realmente de natureza ruim não adianta uma excelente educação.
O que cabe as mulheres quando enxergarem esse tipo de falta de consideração da parte do seu parceiro é separar e se afastar.
E tentar seguir com sua vida.
Muito triste isso,espero que um dia acabe essa situação.
Excelente conteúdo, Obrigada…
Great Marian observation. It takes courage to get out of this cycle of horrors and mistreatment
Exatamente Ronaldo! No Brasil há uma cartilha com vários itens para ajudar a mulher perceber que está vivenciando um relacionamento abusivo antes das agressões físicas se concretizarem. Nessa cartilha estão listados alguns exemplos que vc escreveu.